This thoroughly pissed me off...selfish? It's selfish to want to stay home and spend quality mumma time with your children one freakin' weekday? Selfish because you should be working 50+ hours a week rather than providing your children with SAHM stability and consistency?
As a working mother that's one of the many things you feel though...am I pulling my own weight financially? Is my boss not going to give me that bonus/promotion because Skippy has chicken pox (again)? Is my kid going to be a 15 year old Emo cutter writing poetry about how mommy was never there??? Am I going to make it through another year not being addicted to speed because I don't have energy for it all?
I never asked for this...I don't want to be an equal partner. I want to stay home with my kids and clean the house and make sure the dinner is on the table and still warm to prevent a good backhand from the husband. I want to have play groups and walking groups and book clubs and recipe swaps with other mommies while all of our kids play out in the backyard. I want June Cleaver...with highballs.
That really bit us in the ass though didn't it? Yeah, we have all the same opportunities as a man but in addition need to raise law abiding citizens who don't eat fast food every night who say please and thank you and don't upper cut other children on the playground and have clean clothes and good smelling hair and trimmed nails all while ironing our work suit...oh, and make sure not to spank them because then they'll be druggie alcoholics. AWESOME!
Good lookin' out gals from the 60's!!!
I could have written this. Seriously. Damn woman's movement crap. LOL!
ReplyDeleteLove it! I went to college for 8 years so I could be my own boss and set my own hours. I'm self-employed, so if my daughter has an awards ceremony or a school program, I just mark the time off on my appointment book so I can go. My husband or I take her to school every day and I pick her up 3 days a week. The other days she goes to Boys & Girls Club after school.
ReplyDeleteI've got a good balance but it took a helluva lot of work and money to be able to get to this point.
oh god do i agree...except im going kind of crazy being unemployed and stuck in the house...
ReplyDeletethis just confirms that i will never have cutters.
ReplyDeletedid i say cutters? i meant kids.
if i could just click a "like" button on this post i would have. but since i couldn't, i had to actually comment.
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Ahhh, it's so nice to hear it from somebody else. Now I know I'm not crazy. I really struggle with that entire issue. However, if I don't finish my degree and get out and work, my darling so-far-not-Emo kids (well, except for one, but he doesn't write poetry...he doesn't do much of anything to be truthful) won't be able to go to college and perpetuate the cycle of one-up-manship.
ReplyDeleteTerrific post! You're brilliant!